49. Anger is a Bad Manager

Anger manages everything badly. You will always be diminished by your anger. There are few occasions in our lives, if any, when we have been angry or lost our tempers or been angry on which we can look back without regret. A no-limit person will place higher premia on solving peoblems and creating harmony than on being part of the problem and storing up anger. As you read these words, right now, take a moment to release any anger you might be holding. Fighting and rowing are unpleasant activities and every time a fight happens, you feel miserable and drained of your life forces.

The results of this are :
* Breakdown in Communication
* Distancing of the fighters
* Increased blood pressure - damaging the cardio-vascular system
* Headaches
* Insomnia
* Ulcers
* Destruction of relationships

Fighting is not fun. Fighting is not helpful. Fighting is extremely destructive. Fighting is unproductive. Fighting is injurious. Fighting causes unnecessary pain. Fighting wastes time, money, energy and tranquility.

For one's spiritual development the accumulation of a type of energy called Sattva is necessary. Anyone on this path needs to acquire Sattva and use it for higher purposes like reflection on the words of the wise. Sattva is impersonal and cannot be stored up. A being full of it radiates it and so blesses those around them. This is Dharshan, the blessing that acrues to those who find themselves in the presence of a saint. Sattva is like a very light petroleum spirit. Anger (Crotha in Sanskrit) burns Sattva. and it evaporates very quickly in the presence of Sattva

18. Self-Parenting

Learn to become your own parent - to listen to your own inner signals and to trust what your inner guide, your instincts tell you. This is what it means to be autonomous. It is a big part of self-reliance. Once you establish it, it will serve you all your life. That part of your mind that knows what is true is called Buddhi in Sanskrit. It is the parent part of your mind and always wants what is best for your higher good.The key to being a healthy self parent is to develop the "Adult" part of your personality as set out in the books "Games People Play", "TA Today" by Eric Berne and "I'm OK, You're OK" by Thomas A. Harris.

http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/im_ok.html

http://www.paulstips.com/brainbox/pt/home.nsf/link/13082006-Understanding-the-games-people-play